争吵之后一句简单的“对不起”，可以帮助恋人们弥合裂痕。不过，让TA放弃一部分权力，也许才是我们更想要的，这一结论来自《社会与临床心理学杂志》（Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology）上的一项研究。研究人分析了以往的文献，发现所有情侣间的争吵都可以归结为两个原因：一是感受到威胁，即认为自己地位不保；二是感受到忽视，即认为伴侣不忠或不够体贴。
在这项研究中，科学家访问了400对已婚人士，请他们列出解决冲突的理想办法。其中人气最高的一项是“放权”：要么作出妥协、承认错误、表达尊重，要么……[查看全文]
What Fighting Couples Want
“I'm sorry.” Those two little words can help patch things up after a fight with your significant other. But what your partner may prefer is for you to give up some power. So finds a study in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology. Researchers looking through the literature say that all couples' arguments boiled down to one of two issues: Perceived threat, where one person thinks their status is threatened by a critical partner, or perceived neglect, where one person feels their partner is either disloyal or inattentive. For this latest study, researchers asked more than 400 married couples to list how they'd want to resolve a conflict. And the most desired resolution involved a relinquishing of power – either as a compromise, an admission of fault, a show of respect, or ... [full transcript]